It seems that every year thousands of people fall victim to online dating scammers, and most don’t figure out what’s happened until the damage has been done and it’s far too late to do much about it. The scams are as wide and varied as the imagination will allow, but typically fall into four basic categories:
The Nigerian 419 eMail Scam
Travel Scam
Prostitution Scam
Phone Scam
The stories are almost too good to be true. A beautiful girl. She finds you so hot, so incredibly attractive; you have that certain kindness in your eyes and she can tell that you are a very good man who will treat her right. She tells you that she can’t live another moment without you and destiny commands you both be together. Sure, you might be in your late 60′s, broke, living in a trailer park with your mother. But none of that seems to matter to her…you are truly meant to be together.
But there’s a problem (often you are baited into the problem through the course of a few messages). And this is where trusting, kind gentlemen fall victim.
The Nigerian 419 Scam is one in which the person contacting you poses as some sort of official, either a government official, a lawyer, a doctor, a politician, or some other role that sounds credible, and represents themselves as being in control of millions of dollars. Millions of dollars that they can’t access without your help. Somehow, they managed to find you, and somehow you are the only person in the world that can help them access this vast fortune. The problem: there is a fee of some sort (finder’s fee, storage fee, pay-off fee, transportation fee, bank fee – insert your fee here) that needs to be paid first and they just don’t have the money to cover it.
If you “lend” them the money or pay the fee on their behalf, not only will they repay it to you when the fortune is released to them, they’ll also share the fortune with you as a reward for your incredible kindness.
The scam: There is no fortune. The person is lying to you. If you pay, you’ll never see your money or the so-called official again.
The Travel Scam works like this: You’ve signed up on a foreign dating site (or even a local one). You’ve met an absolutely gorgeous gal – the woman of your dreams. She’s so beautiful that she could be featured on the cover of Maxim or FHM. And the bonus – she’s fallen madly in love with you. Again, age or looks just doesn’t seem to matter because love can overlook anything, or so she says. After a few messages she tells you that she absolutely MUST see you. The problem: She doesn’t have the money to travel.
The scam: At some point she will ask you to help her to buy a ticket, or she will turn the tables on you and have you ask her if you can help buy her a ticket. And there will be some problem that prevents you from actually buying the ticket on her behalf and sending it to her. She’ll have to conduct the purchase transaction herself, either with your credit card number (you’re so damned trusting!) or with cash that you send her. Give up either and you’ll never see your money or the girl again.
The Prostitution Scam is probably one of the easiest of them all to spot. The girl’s profile will be racy beyond belief. She’ll definitely take pride in showing off her assets (tits and ass my friend, tits and ass) and she’ll discuss all the incredible sexual things that she loves without blushing for a beat. You’ll think you hit the jackpot! And again, age or looks won’t seem to matter much to her. The problem: Well, there isn’t really much of a problem. She’ll perform any sexual act you want.
The scam: You think you’ve found love, but she’s found a wallet. If you’re into paying for sex, then there’s not much of a problem here. If you’re looking for love, no matter what you pay her, you’re wasting your time.
And finally, the Phone Scam. This one’s almost as old as the Nigerian 419 Scam. You meet the gal of your dreams. Again, she’s beautiful beyond belief. Magazine quality good looks. And again, she doesn’t care one bit about your age or looks. The messages will be hot and steamy and she’ll really get a rise out of you (get it? A rise?) At some point she’ll tell you that you must talk, she craves the sound of your voice, she can’t continue to go on without hearing you live. The problem: She gives you a foreign phone number or a phone number with an unusual area code.
The scam: 900 numbers are not the only numbers that can charge you exorbitant per-minute usage fees. Many other numbers can be set up and the fees charged depend on the owner of the number. A short phone call can end up costing you hundreds of dollars and there won’t be much sympathy coming from the phone company.
As I mentioned, the scams are as wide and varied as the imagination will allow. But there is something you can do to prevent becoming a victim. And reading this article has been your first step. The next step is to recognize the patterns of the scams. Beautiful women that otherwise wouldn’t contact you on their own (without you first initiating contact). A lack of concern for age, looks, or distance. And believe me, a drop-dead gorgeous 20 year old Maxim model does NOT want to date a 45 year old balding overweight “dude” that lives in a trailer park with his mom. She falls madly, head-over-heels in love with you within just a few short messages. And there’s a problem.
If you see any of these signs, chances are it’s a scam and moving forward will only set you up as a victim.
To prevent falling victim, don’t give out personal information including your name, address, email and phone number, and for crying out loud, don’t give out or release financial information or send money! Do your research. If she gives you a phone number, Google it to see what comes up. Check out the dating site forums to see if anyone’s reported scams and what the nature of the scams are. If your contact seems to align with a reported scam…bank on it being a scam too.
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